“But boys must be trained to take risks, which means being confident in the midst of the unknown… Courtship reveals how necessary this masculinity is. Many modern young men approach a girl, and they are quite serious as far as their intentions go, but they are afraid of interfering with her life. “You know, she is going to graduate soon, but she wants to go to school at Notre Dame, and I don’t really want to go to Notre Dame, and showing interest in her would really disrupt all her plans.” But the whole point of courtship is to disrupt a young lady’s plans… A young man should not be afraid of disrupting, because marriage is by its very nature a disruption of her previous way of life.”
-Douglas Wilson, Her Hand in Marriage
I never really saw it from this angle before.